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Birth story. & goodbye. πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’œ

22 Nov

So it started Friday. I was having tiny baby contractions all through Costco but I really didn’t think anything of it because they were so light I could hardly feel them.

Saturday Domonique & I were in bed asleep since it was supposed to be her weekend to work.
Around 5:30pm I woke up to what felt like a little pop & a gush of fluid. 😳
I yelled “Domonique”
& of course since she was asleep she jumped up like a crazy person & said “WHAT”.
She thought she had slept through her work alarm.
I told her my water broke.
& her response was, what…are you sure you didn’t pee in the bed.
-_-
I knew that’s not what it was.
It was a giant puddle that continued to pour out.
She had me call the advice nurse who told me to come in to the hospital.
We took our time, packed our bags and showered and about two hours later we arrived.
The moon was ABSOLUTELY beautiful & the whole way there we just kept talking about how we would soon be taking our son home with us!

After the nurses established it was for sure my water that broke (something Domonique & I already knew.) We were then admitted.
(Prior to my water breaking I had just been seen & was told I would have to come in twice a week until the baby came for NST & if my blood pressure didn’t go down we were going to have to talk about being induced.)

I hadn’t started having contractions so they gave me two options.
One, wait it out 6-12 hours and if nothing happens I would be given medication to help start labor.
Two, take medication to soften my cervix.

We decided there was no point to wait and possibly have to take medication as well as risk the chance of infection/complications since my water had already broke. So I took the medication at about 10:00pm.
Luckily I only had to take one dose & my contractions began.
After awhile the pain got pretty bad so I was given pain medication at 1:00am through my IV & they checked my cervix.
I was 4&1/2 dilated.
The medication was great while it lasted but that was only for about an hour.
I was gonna wait to get my epidural and deal with the pain but that really didn’t make any sense so I went ahead & got the epidural at 3:00am.
That was NOT fun at all. -_-
However I am SURELY glad I got it.
I could pretty much feel no pain at all other than one small area on my left which they called a “hot spot”.
It made me a tiny loopy, every time the nurse came in I made her check that my epidural catheter wasn’t falling out.
& I was also worried my urine catheter would “fall” out the entire time. -_-

The epidural allowed me to sleep a couple hours, like three.
Domonique slept some as well.
A few hours later we woke up and
At 5:30am they put me on oxygen.
I kept forgetting to breath and the baby’s heart rate would go down a little every contraction.
They weren’t too concerned but the oxygen helped a lot.
By 6:00am I was 6 & 1/2cm dilated. ☺️

A few hours later around 11:00pm they checked me again & I was COMPLETE. 😳
They gave me an hour to labor down & then said we would do a “trial run” to see how I pushed.
At 12:00pm we did one trial push & the nurse said the baby was ready to come!!
She called her “team”, a doctor & another nurse and we began pushing. 😝😝
To be completely honest, it wasn’t difficult at all. In between pushes I was laughing and talking with the nurse & my wife.
I was warned before hand about this whole “ring of fire” that I would feel when the baby came out.
& oh my, i was FOR sure on fireeeee.
That was the only super painful part of Kai’s delivery.
Even then there was no screaming or anything of the sort.
We had our Mothers & Domonique’s grandmother in the room.
But they sat on a couch while Domonique was right by my side.

I could only hear Domonique while I was pushing, when she told me she could see him I got super excited and just knew I had to push our baby all the way out right then.

I only pushed for 20 minutes and at 12:46pm on November 9,2014 we met our little man who TOTALLY stole our hearts the moment we seen him.
He’s so perfect.

I couldn’t have asked for or imagine a better birth experience. My wife was AMAZING & supportive.
And it felt great to have our family there. πŸ’™

I did tear & had to get like two stitches. Probably because towards the end the doctor told me not to push but i INSISTED I had to. & she let me.
I didn’t even feel the placenta come out. 😳

Immediately after he was born our family took a look at him & left the room so Domonique & I could spend time with him.

We had to stay at the hospital 5 days because Kaimani had jaundice and needed to be under a billi light.
He was low risk but because he was born at 37 weeks exactly they wanted to keep an eye on him.
He was also Coombs positive which is just a result of the baby & I having different blood types. It pretty much means that his body was working overtime because it recognized my blood as a foreign substance. (that’s a super basic explanation).

Kaimani is the SWEETEST baby ever. When he was born he didn’t let out a screaming cry. More like a few small whimpers.
He’s almost two weeks & we have still only heard him REALLY cry once for a few minutes after his circumcision. Poor little man. I felt horrible.
I turned all the lights out in the room, held him and put on a song that Domonique used to play for him in my tummy & he fell right to sleep.

All of the nurses were impressed by how chill he is.
Domonique & I more so.
He doesn’t even wake up when he gets his little feet poked for blood test.
& yes, I am TOTALLY bragging about our baby.
He’s SUCH a sweet baby boy.
We couldn’t be more lucky to have him in our lives. 😍

I wish I could explain better how totally in love we are with him. πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’œ

We hadn’t planned on cosleeping at all.
But we get worried because at times it almost seems as if he has sleep apnea which the doctor says he doesn’t but we aren’t totally convinced.

So Domonique went out & bought him a cosleeper that goes in our bed.
She also bought a tiny monitor that will buzz to wake him up and alert us if he stops breathing for more than 15seconds.

We had bought only Tommee Tippee bottles. TONS of them.
Unfortunately the nipples collapse and smoosh his face.
We also tried lansinoh & latch.
They work, but not too well for him.
The bottles we have found work GREAT and minimize his spit up are Dr.Brown & Joovy boob.

Kaimani eats ONLY Breastmilk, since he was born. Originally I was Breast feeding. But he had a little trouble latching and eventually he got it but it would take him a little while. I felt bad, like why make our son work for him meal if he doesn’t have to. So I began pumping. I also produce a TON of milk. Since he was born I’ve had no problem pumping & literally filling bottles. The nurses kept joking I could feed every baby in there. We are considering donating to a milk bank. They said I “hyper lactate” this is a good thing because I know our baby will always have plenty to eat. But the bad part is the horrible pain that comes from my breast being full. I also developed mastitis & am having to take antibiotics for it. However it’s all worth it to give our baby the BEST meal he can have.

I am AMAZED at how wonderful of a mother my wife is. She’s the most attentive, involved parent ever. I also just enjoy seeing how much she loves our son. I often catch her just staring at him. He looks EXACTLY like her. I am so in love with my family. πŸ’™

Btw, just one more reason we LOVE our sperm clinic. Since we have Kai they mailed us hard copies of the donors photos. & we gained access to a social media like site that only other parents with live births from ONLY OUR DONOR have access to. We are able to post pictures of our children/comment & message each other. It’s VERY private. Everything has to be approved by us in order for anybody to see. Also, once Kai turns 13 we can as well as the other parents allow him to make his own account and speak with his siblings.
We know for sure he has 12 siblings, only 3 being girls & one set of twin brothers. It’s pretty crazy to see the resemblance between the children. All of them even have dimples like our son. The donor can also gain access to this site. However he has yet to do so. We would have to approve it in order for him to see any of our information anyways. It has been great to speak with some of the other families that used the same sperm donor. We are able to discuss our children’s similar characteristics & also it’s nice to be able to stay in contact with others who we share such a deep connection with since our children are siblings.

To be honest I’m pretty sure this will be our last post until we decide to give our little man a sibling. We couldn’t be more grateful to have had all of your support throughout this process. To all of you who are still trying, we will keep you in our prayers. We will definitely still be following all of your blogs to stay updated!

Here’s some pictures from the most amazing two weeks of our lives. πŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’™

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Welcome to the world.πŸ’™

9 Nov

Kaimani La’bree Robinson
November 9,2014
12:46pm
6.75 pounds
19&1/2 inches

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He is the definition of PERFECTION.

Feeling it. 34 weeks. 6 days.

25 Oct

I am HORMONAL.
I’m already a pretty sensitive person as it is.
Nowadays I am extremely irritable.
& just about everything makes me sad/angry or hurts my feelings.
I’m sure my wife just LOVES this. -_-
Poor thing.

My wisdom teeth (all 4) have been coming in forever now.
& randomly my mouth just will hurt SUPER bad. Like tonight. 😩
On top of the never ending headaches.
Yay.

Seems like the past few days our baby boy has chilled down a bit.
It’s STRESSING me out.
I’ve contemplated going in to L&D to have him monitored but because I know he is meeting the “at least ten kicks every two hours”, I haven’t.
He still has his crazy moments.
I’m assuming/hoping it’s because of how cramped up he is getting in there.
I have started using the kick counting card given to me by the hospital though.
Just to be sure.

I LOVE being pregnant.
I really do.
Even with the terrible heartburn & headaches.
I’m even scared that I will miss my belly once he’s born. Lol.
I also like my body even more than I did pre-pregnancy. 😝
Baby bumps are just the cutest things to me.
HOWEVER, I am ready for these next few weeks to hurry along!
Every part of me hurts.
ALL. OF. THE. TIME!
& of course we are SOOO ready to meet this handsome liddo man of ours. πŸ’™

Since she doesn’t qualify for maternity leave
& everything will be totally unpaid.
We having been planning.
& HOPING that Domonique would get plenty of time off to spend with Kaimani & I once he’s born.
& we finally have everything straightened out!
She’s going to be off for about 8 weeks. ☺️😍😝
We seriously are so happy about all of that family time.

Baby bump. 34 weeks. & 3 days.

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I have been a FREEEAK about what we buy for him.
Like obsessing over the registry (we used this not only for the baby shower but also for everything we personally wanted to buy him) since I was 15 weeks.
Domonique picked most of the larger items we have for him.
I wanted to share a couple of our favorite things.
Just because I am always curious about other people’s picks as well. ☺️
(These are the same colors we picked too. Except the diapers, obviously we got a bunch of colors in those. 😝)

1. Chicco Urban Stroller.
I must say I am absolutely in LOVE with this beaaaautiful thang. 😏 it’s a 3-in-1 so it can be either a car seat carrier, bassinet, or a toddler seat. (With & without leg boot.)
It can also face front or rear which we loveee.
& we have an extra color kit so we can make it gray if we’d like.

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2. Chicco Keyfit 30 Magic Car seat.
So on top of being extremely adorable. It’s the number #1 ranked car seat in America. 😊 It fits in our stroller & has sure latch which makes it super easy to tighten it in the car.

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3. Evenflo DLX platinum all-in-one Car seat.
This car seat also has sure latch. It has cup holders for the little man. Some of my favorite things about it is that it reclines & has a temperature regulating fabric that helps him stay comfortable & not get all sweaty! & most importantly it has some fancy type of side protection that helps reduce side impact force.

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4. Graco Duetsoothe swing & rocker.
So originally we were gonna go with the mamaroo but we read/heard a lot that the baby would quickly grow out of it. So we found this which we like even more. You can use it as a full swing which like has a bunch of different levels, plays music & has a cute mobile. Or you can detach it (just pull it off) & set it on the floor as a rocker.

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5. Bumgenius 4.0 cloth diapers.
I already wrote whole cloth diaper post. But yeah, we are in love with these cute little diapers. They seem to be top notch. & are nearly as convenient as disposable (other than washing,which I personally don’t mind) They’re also better for our baby’s bum. & although they’re pretty expensive upfront it will save PLENTY in the long run!

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6. Bumbo & play tray.
I’m not even sure why I’m so obsessed with this little seat. It just seems like it will be really convenient. We are on the go a lot so I love that it’s something we can take with us to family/friends houses & he will have his personal little seat for feeding him snacks & stuff. It also is kinda squishy and comfy looking…SUPER cute as well. We got the play tray too which attaches on and gives him a little play/eating station.

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7. Dekor plus diaper pail
Some people use regular garbage cans (works fine I’m sure) which I just didn’t wanna do for keeping cloth diapers & obviously you shouldn’t use a regular diaper genie since they have disposable plastic bags inside & you will probably end up with a super funky room. But this diaper pail is the ONLY one that I could find that has the option of purchasing a pack of two CLOTH diaper pail liners that can just be washed with the diapers. It also comes with one refill of the regular plastic liners which is perfect since we will be using disposables while he is a newborn.

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8. Tommee tippee bottles
It was between these & Dr.Browns but these ones are just so much cuter. 😍 Annnd since I will be breast feeding/pumping for Dommie to feed him there’s also a lot of reviews on how these bottles are super easy to switch between breast feeding & bottle feeding. Our favorite pack we have are these colored ones. πŸ™‚ even though Domonique doesn’t want him to use the purple one. Lol.

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9. Vicks starry night humidifier
Since he has an iPod for his music we weren’t too worried about the projector/sound machines. BUUUUT, we needed a humidifier as well as a projector. So this works PERFECT since it does both. There’s also an option of adding scent pads.

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10. Petunia pickle bottom walkabout
I don’t plan on wearing our baby, there’s no particular reason. But Domonique does & will do it often i’m sure. So from the jump we knew we wanted to find her a nice carrier. There were like no options of cute ones. -_- they all pretty much looked the same & are super basic. The day we found out we were having a boy we went shopping. & we found this ADORABLE/boyish carrier. Of course this is our opinion but I would have to say it’s the cutest one I’ve seen, evaaa. 😝

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Six months. :)

10 Aug

Our SIX MONTH baby bump. πŸ™‚
We made it to viability today. ❀

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23 Weeks. & 1 day.

4 Aug

I’m sure I’ve said this before BUUUUT. We CANNOT wait to meet our son.
16 weeks & 6 days to go… Considering he comes on his due date. πŸ™‚
Which I hope he does because I really want to have thanksgiving dinner AND still be able to go shopping on Black Friday. Lol.
That’s probably not gonna happen, but I can dream!

We FINALLY finished putting our room together Friday.
Including the most amazing curtains ever which totally block out the sun.
This is extremely helpful being that we sleep during the day since Domonique is on graveyards.
I think we both had the BEST sleep ever since we’ve moved here.
We ordered a new bedroom furniture set when we moved a few months ago.
Since our last bed was low profile we didn’t have a boxspring.
So we finally got that as well.
& I just loveeee how cute our room looks. 😍

Another order of our cloth diapers came Friday as well.
Much smaller than the first, still Bumgenius but it’s a new color so I had to order it separate from the first set.
ANNNND my wife surprised me & ordered EVERY one of the diapers we wanted from this other company.
They only had 5 of each diaper in stock so i wasn’t sure if we would get them in time.
& yes. I know it’s silly, but it’s pretty serious. Lol. -_-
These diapers are a bit more expensive than the Bumgenius 4.0 that we are mostly using (17.95 compared to 26.00)
But they’re the cutest things in the world.
We also ordered a pack of cloth wipes from Etsy to use for pee pee only!
I will FOR SURE be using regular disposable wipes for poop.
Sorry this totally isn’t becoming a cloth diaper blog.
But with how obsessed we are with them I will probably talk about them often. πŸ™‚

We went to a baby shower Saturday. πŸ™‚
It was my first baby shower I attended as an adult. Lol.
So being the nerd I am about this stuff I was excited.

Tuesday Domonique was off & we got the BEST treat ever.
Her grandmother is from Louisiana
& she’s for sure one of the best cooks I know. πŸ™‚
Well her grandmother’s brother was in town (also from Louisiana)
& they made gumbo. 😍
Oh man.
Super delicious. πŸ™‚

I give myself a manicure & pedicure every Friday.
& the bigger my tummy gets, the harder the pedicure gets. Lol.
So I may have to retire and start going to the nail shop soon.

My indigestion is just getting worse.
Or maybe it’s heartburn.
I don’t even know the difference.
Or if there is a difference.
😦
Anyways.
If anybody knows of anything that will help other than medication cuz I just refuse to take ANYTHING while I’m pregnant.
Please let me know!

Domonique was able to feel our little man move last night for about five minutes straight!
He was going crazy in my tummy like he usually does at night. πŸ™‚
I’m not sure who was more excited that she was able to feel him, her or I. Lol.
I could tell by her reaction she’s absolutely in love with him.
After she felt him she started worrying even more about him.
Asking if I was hungry and telling me to lay down & rest.
Today while we were driving she seen him kicking as well. πŸ™‚

Our next appointment will be Friday, we can’t wait to hear our baby’s heartbeat again. 😝
I wish we could have an ultrasound too. 😦
But I won’t be a brat about it!

I CANNOT wait to receive these diapers she surprised me with. πŸ™‚ Are they not the best looking things ever. πŸ’š

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Bumgenius 4.0 in Armadillo.

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Our cloth wipes. πŸ™‚

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Baby beach bum. <3

11 Jul

(Domonique is my little beachbum. & I’m sure he’ll be her mini. When I first moved in with her we lived a few blocks from the beach & she’s totally obsessed with it. 😝)

So I really haven’t been writing too much lately.
Not because I don’t want to.
But there’s been A LOT going on. Like too much to even think about.
Mostly good & some bad too.
Anyways.
We’re blessed so I’m not going to complain.

My ALL DAY sickness is gone. & I have been taking a different prenatal that my doctor recommended in place of those seven horse pills.
Which is so lovely.
My overwhelming, sight blurring headaches every night= NOT so lovely.

After losing ten pounds since becoming pregnant I have finally started gaining a couple of those pounds back. πŸ™‚
I have an obsession with not looking pregnant enough.
So this is of course good news.
Alsooo, I have been EXTREMELY hungry all the time. & not as picky so this is for sure helping with the weight gain.

Also as far as food goes…
I am still eating fruit 24/7.
Rarely any meat
& really a bunch of random things.
I’m finally able to cook meals for us again without wanting to throw up. πŸ™‚
Which I know Domonique is happy about.

I have always loved spicy foods.
But since I’ve been pregnant I REALLY should not eat them.
I decided to have some of my wife’s Thai chilies that she eats with pretty much everything & I am paying for it. -_-

Since our gender ultrasound we have had two check up’s where we got to hear our little man’s heartbeat. πŸ’œ
& we have completed all of the Down syndrome test.
Everything’s looking good. πŸ™‚

My wife recently had a week of vacation from work for her birthday.
She is now 25. πŸ™‚
It was awesome to get to spend so much time with her since she works so much & when she’s not working we usually have errands to run!
We went to the Russian river in guerneville.
Finished the new season of Orange is the new black.
Started watching true blood, which although it’s kind of corny we absolutely love. πŸ™‚
SHE got turnt up every night. Lol.
And mostly we just chilled at home and RELAXED which is something she doesn’t get to do often.

We have purchased all the decorations for his bedroom.
I cannot wait to see it all put together. 😍
My wife has pretty much designed his room, with some input from me of course. πŸ™‚
& the baby shower planning is underway!
Nautical theme of course.
Which my wife also picked. Lol.
I am a planner by nature so although I’m not the one throwing the shower I can’t help but assist in organizing everything.
I would probably freak out if I couldn’t help.

We have gone back and forth about cloth diapering.
My wife mainly being the one wanting to use cloth & me well…not so much.
BUUUUT she brought it up again recently & I finally agreed.
This has been a topic of discussion way before we were even expecting & we have committed!
The benefits of cloth are just too good to pass up!
It’s sort of confusing.
But overall I’m happy my wife kept pushing for us to use them.
She probably regrets it now that I’ve been obsessing over them. Haha.
We’ve picked a brand (Bumgenius 4.0, one size fits all) & I’m still researching specifics of all the other accessories we will need.
We’re both super happy about this decision!

Today we had our anatomy scan!
They once again confirmed it’s a boy.
Of course our little man was being a booger like always!
He was covering his face and all squished up making the technician work hard to get her pictures.
He is a healthy baby which we couldn’t be happier about!!
There’s nothing I love more than looking over at Domonique while she’s watching him on the screen. πŸ™‚

It was strange to see him move on the screen as well as feel him kick inside of me at the same time! ❀
We SERIOUSLY couldn't be more in love with our liddo K______.
CLEARLY we have decided on a name!
It's the name we picked when we first starting looking into IVF.
But we aren't sharing until he's here. πŸ™‚

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6 weeks 2 days. :) FIRST ultrasound

8 Apr

Today we had our first of many ultrasounds.
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Two sacs were found but one is smaller than the other.
We know for sure we have one healthy baby with a beautiful heartbeat!!
We couldn’t be more excited and feel more blessed!

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