Birth story. & goodbye. πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’œ

22 Nov

So it started Friday. I was having tiny baby contractions all through Costco but I really didn’t think anything of it because they were so light I could hardly feel them.

Saturday Domonique & I were in bed asleep since it was supposed to be her weekend to work.
Around 5:30pm I woke up to what felt like a little pop & a gush of fluid. 😳
I yelled “Domonique”
& of course since she was asleep she jumped up like a crazy person & said “WHAT”.
She thought she had slept through her work alarm.
I told her my water broke.
& her response was, what…are you sure you didn’t pee in the bed.
I knew that’s not what it was.
It was a giant puddle that continued to pour out.
She had me call the advice nurse who told me to come in to the hospital.
We took our time, packed our bags and showered and about two hours later we arrived.
The moon was ABSOLUTELY beautiful & the whole way there we just kept talking about how we would soon be taking our son home with us!

After the nurses established it was for sure my water that broke (something Domonique & I already knew.) We were then admitted.
(Prior to my water breaking I had just been seen & was told I would have to come in twice a week until the baby came for NST & if my blood pressure didn’t go down we were going to have to talk about being induced.)

I hadn’t started having contractions so they gave me two options.
One, wait it out 6-12 hours and if nothing happens I would be given medication to help start labor.
Two, take medication to soften my cervix.

We decided there was no point to wait and possibly have to take medication as well as risk the chance of infection/complications since my water had already broke. So I took the medication at about 10:00pm.
Luckily I only had to take one dose & my contractions began.
After awhile the pain got pretty bad so I was given pain medication at 1:00am through my IV & they checked my cervix.
I was 4&1/2 dilated.
The medication was great while it lasted but that was only for about an hour.
I was gonna wait to get my epidural and deal with the pain but that really didn’t make any sense so I went ahead & got the epidural at 3:00am.
That was NOT fun at all. -_-
However I am SURELY glad I got it.
I could pretty much feel no pain at all other than one small area on my left which they called a “hot spot”.
It made me a tiny loopy, every time the nurse came in I made her check that my epidural catheter wasn’t falling out.
& I was also worried my urine catheter would “fall” out the entire time. -_-

The epidural allowed me to sleep a couple hours, like three.
Domonique slept some as well.
A few hours later we woke up and
At 5:30am they put me on oxygen.
I kept forgetting to breath and the baby’s heart rate would go down a little every contraction.
They weren’t too concerned but the oxygen helped a lot.
By 6:00am I was 6 & 1/2cm dilated. ☺️

A few hours later around 11:00pm they checked me again & I was COMPLETE. 😳
They gave me an hour to labor down & then said we would do a “trial run” to see how I pushed.
At 12:00pm we did one trial push & the nurse said the baby was ready to come!!
She called her “team”, a doctor & another nurse and we began pushing. 😝😝
To be completely honest, it wasn’t difficult at all. In between pushes I was laughing and talking with the nurse & my wife.
I was warned before hand about this whole “ring of fire” that I would feel when the baby came out.
& oh my, i was FOR sure on fireeeee.
That was the only super painful part of Kai’s delivery.
Even then there was no screaming or anything of the sort.
We had our Mothers & Domonique’s grandmother in the room.
But they sat on a couch while Domonique was right by my side.

I could only hear Domonique while I was pushing, when she told me she could see him I got super excited and just knew I had to push our baby all the way out right then.

I only pushed for 20 minutes and at 12:46pm on November 9,2014 we met our little man who TOTALLY stole our hearts the moment we seen him.
He’s so perfect.

I couldn’t have asked for or imagine a better birth experience. My wife was AMAZING & supportive.
And it felt great to have our family there. πŸ’™

I did tear & had to get like two stitches. Probably because towards the end the doctor told me not to push but i INSISTED I had to. & she let me.
I didn’t even feel the placenta come out. 😳

Immediately after he was born our family took a look at him & left the room so Domonique & I could spend time with him.

We had to stay at the hospital 5 days because Kaimani had jaundice and needed to be under a billi light.
He was low risk but because he was born at 37 weeks exactly they wanted to keep an eye on him.
He was also Coombs positive which is just a result of the baby & I having different blood types. It pretty much means that his body was working overtime because it recognized my blood as a foreign substance. (that’s a super basic explanation).

Kaimani is the SWEETEST baby ever. When he was born he didn’t let out a screaming cry. More like a few small whimpers.
He’s almost two weeks & we have still only heard him REALLY cry once for a few minutes after his circumcision. Poor little man. I felt horrible.
I turned all the lights out in the room, held him and put on a song that Domonique used to play for him in my tummy & he fell right to sleep.

All of the nurses were impressed by how chill he is.
Domonique & I more so.
He doesn’t even wake up when he gets his little feet poked for blood test.
& yes, I am TOTALLY bragging about our baby.
He’s SUCH a sweet baby boy.
We couldn’t be more lucky to have him in our lives. 😍

I wish I could explain better how totally in love we are with him. πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’œ

We hadn’t planned on cosleeping at all.
But we get worried because at times it almost seems as if he has sleep apnea which the doctor says he doesn’t but we aren’t totally convinced.

So Domonique went out & bought him a cosleeper that goes in our bed.
She also bought a tiny monitor that will buzz to wake him up and alert us if he stops breathing for more than 15seconds.

We had bought only Tommee Tippee bottles. TONS of them.
Unfortunately the nipples collapse and smoosh his face.
We also tried lansinoh & latch.
They work, but not too well for him.
The bottles we have found work GREAT and minimize his spit up are Dr.Brown & Joovy boob.

Kaimani eats ONLY Breastmilk, since he was born. Originally I was Breast feeding. But he had a little trouble latching and eventually he got it but it would take him a little while. I felt bad, like why make our son work for him meal if he doesn’t have to. So I began pumping. I also produce a TON of milk. Since he was born I’ve had no problem pumping & literally filling bottles. The nurses kept joking I could feed every baby in there. We are considering donating to a milk bank. They said I “hyper lactate” this is a good thing because I know our baby will always have plenty to eat. But the bad part is the horrible pain that comes from my breast being full. I also developed mastitis & am having to take antibiotics for it. However it’s all worth it to give our baby the BEST meal he can have.

I am AMAZED at how wonderful of a mother my wife is. She’s the most attentive, involved parent ever. I also just enjoy seeing how much she loves our son. I often catch her just staring at him. He looks EXACTLY like her. I am so in love with my family. πŸ’™

Btw, just one more reason we LOVE our sperm clinic. Since we have Kai they mailed us hard copies of the donors photos. & we gained access to a social media like site that only other parents with live births from ONLY OUR DONOR have access to. We are able to post pictures of our children/comment & message each other. It’s VERY private. Everything has to be approved by us in order for anybody to see. Also, once Kai turns 13 we can as well as the other parents allow him to make his own account and speak with his siblings.
We know for sure he has 12 siblings, only 3 being girls & one set of twin brothers. It’s pretty crazy to see the resemblance between the children. All of them even have dimples like our son. The donor can also gain access to this site. However he has yet to do so. We would have to approve it in order for him to see any of our information anyways. It has been great to speak with some of the other families that used the same sperm donor. We are able to discuss our children’s similar characteristics & also it’s nice to be able to stay in contact with others who we share such a deep connection with since our children are siblings.

To be honest I’m pretty sure this will be our last post until we decide to give our little man a sibling. We couldn’t be more grateful to have had all of your support throughout this process. To all of you who are still trying, we will keep you in our prayers. We will definitely still be following all of your blogs to stay updated!

Here’s some pictures from the most amazing two weeks of our lives. πŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’™

























25 Responses to “Birth story. & goodbye. πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’œ”

  1. pepibebe November 22, 2014 at 1:45 pm #

    He’s so adorable. I guess it would be hard to try and blog with a newborn but I’m bummed I won’t get to see him get older (and even more adorable)! Stay well and take care.

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 7:55 pm #

      Thank you. & yes he for sure has our full attention 24/7! We hope your pregnancy continues to go smoothly!

      • pepibebe November 22, 2014 at 11:23 pm #

        Thanks – we are really really really freaking hoping so too! 10 wks tomorrow, assume we’ll start to feel a little more comfortable after our 12wk scan.

  2. oc15 November 22, 2014 at 2:16 pm #

    that is pretty incredible that he had so many siblings to potentially connect with. what a great support tool to be able to access them. also, i JUST read about the randomness of breathing for babies. their lungs don’t function on a normal, regular basis in the womb and so they continue to function like this once outside. it will take some time for his system to regulate. thank you for sharing your journey with me. i am soo happy for this blessing in your life and wish you continued health and happiness. i look forward to the day when i see you post about the next leg of your journey. xo

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 7:57 pm #

      Yes, we have always planned to be very open with him about his donor so we couldnt be happier! & thats what they had told us & we researched into the breathing its still SUPER scary. πŸ˜” & thank you!! We cant wait to see that baby of yours & find out whether it’s a girl or boy!

  3. mamaetmaman November 22, 2014 at 3:17 pm #

    Congrats to you both! I’m sad to see you go. Hopefully I will continue to hear from you through my blog! All the best.

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

      Thank you! & it’s a bit emotional to be “ending” our blog when we have been through so much with all of you!

  4. g2the4thpower November 22, 2014 at 4:18 pm #

    Gorgeous little man & family! Congrats again!

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

      ☺️ thank you!!

  5. sbear2014 November 22, 2014 at 4:38 pm #

    What a beautiful baby boy, you guys are a beautiful family! Congratulations!

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 7:59 pm #

      πŸ’œ thaaank you!!

  6. sbear2014 November 22, 2014 at 4:40 pm #

    And thank you for sharing your birth experience!

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 8:00 pm #

      Of course! ☺️

  7. ladyloveandbabydust November 22, 2014 at 5:22 pm #

    Beautiful baby, beautiful family and beautiful story.

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 8:00 pm #

      πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™ thank you! We for sure will be praying for you two.

  8. Jenn November 22, 2014 at 5:55 pm #

    Wow, what a journey this has all been! I remember following one another so long ago and our similar paths at similar times. I’m so happy we both ended up with our happy little families. He is adorable and I’m so happy for you all! Good luck with everything and I look forward to your next journey. Who knows, maybe we’ll be on a similar timeline again for our next ones πŸ˜‰ xoxoxo

    • HER bun MY oven November 22, 2014 at 9:07 pm #

      Yes, cycle buddies. & now we have these handsome little men in our lives! Good luck to you & your beautiful family as well!

  9. santosha1203 November 22, 2014 at 9:36 pm #

    Kai is gorgeous, congratulations again! I’m so glad you had such a wonderful birthing experience! That made me feel better about labor! Have an awesome holiday season with your new family! You were the first blog I followed and here you are, with your little boy, and here I am, pregnant again and hopefully successfully this time! Take care and maybe I’ll see you in a couple years πŸ™‚

  10. Her eggs. My nest. November 23, 2014 at 12:06 am #

    Congratulations, again. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You’ve inspired us (and many others) to take the road less traveled. it’s such a beautiful and amazing journey you’ve been on i can not wait to start in January! wishing you guys nothing but the best!! Ps…. He looks sooo much like the wifey!!! He’s just…. amazing! Take care!!!

  11. rayplaag02 November 23, 2014 at 2:48 am #

    He is so so so beautiful. Enjoy your lives together xx

  12. oddsareagainstus November 23, 2014 at 8:56 am #

    Congratulation! I have been reading your blog the last couple weeks and finally started my own. Thank you for sharing your experience! Your son is perfect!

  13. TheChroniclesofaNonBellyMama November 24, 2014 at 8:42 am #

    He is beyond freaking adorable! I have really enjoyed reading your blog and Im sad to see you guys go. All the best in your parenting endeavors and love to you guys throughout your journey.

    • HER bun MY oven November 24, 2014 at 10:19 am #

      Thank you! & good luck to you and your wife with your twins!

  14. kahaluugrl75 December 17, 2014 at 8:48 pm #

    Sooo adorable! congrats you guys =)

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